Wedding
Customs in and Around Pula
Pula,
one of the most beautiful and interesting cities on the Istrian
Peninsula, is situated on a hill, its slopes descending to the waters of
a deep, wind protected bay. Because of its location and mild climate
this area has permanently been settled from the early stone age up to
the present day. It means Pula is one of the oldest cities in Croatia.
Many cultural and historic monuments dominate its panorama. There is
lots of good food, fish and very fine wine. Pula is a city of rich
cultural traditions which includes dancing in traditional costumes.
In May 1991, I flew from Canada to
Croatia to attend my son’s wedding. The wedding took place in Pula, an
ancient city famous for its Roman Coliseum, on the Istrian peninsula.
About 150 guests attended the wedding.
Weddings
in Croatia are a lot of fun. It is customary to play tricks on the newlyweds.
Some things may surprise you. This is a description of some of the customs at
the wedding.
The day of my son’s wedding arrives. We start with a lunch with our side of
the family at my son’s house. There’s music and good cheer.
At the same time, the bride’s family is having
lunch with her relatives and friends at her house. After lunch, the bride’s
guests get ready for the arrival of the groom and his party. They send a scout
to warn them when the groom party is coming.
We, the groom’s party, arrive in our cars. We
greet each other, but they wouldn’t open the gate in front of the bride’s house.
We have to negotiate with the bride’s people to get in.
"We’re
looking for a young lady we’ve been told lives here, " a man from our party
shouts.
They bring a girl out onto the balcony.
"Not her!", everyone shouts.
So they bring another one and another and so it
goes about three times until the right girl, the bride all dressed in white, is
brought out.
"That’s the one!", cheers the crowd.
A
white dove is released as a symbol of the bride leaving home.
Finally, the gates open for us, and we go in. We
greet each other with hugs and kisses. Boutonnieres are distributed to each
guest. The mood is celebratory with music and singing. A man with an accordion
and another one with a flute typical instruments for this region are playing all
along. After a while, we are ready to leave for the wedding ceremony.
We get in our cars and are on our way. Suddenly,
there’s an obstacle on the road, a car. They just wouldn’t let the bride go.
Young men get out of their cars, and because there are no car keys in it, by
pushing and pulling they move the car aside so that everyone could pass by. It’s
a short drive to the city hall for the civic ceremony. A crowd waits anxiously
outside the city hall after the ceremony to throw rice at the newlyweds. Our
wedding party continues to a church for a religious ceremony. Upon leaving the
church, the newlyweds are again attacked with more flying rice.
Everyone goes to the groom’s place again. On the
way there we are stopped by a "policeman" (not a real one). Two cars block the
road. "Negotiations" to get through begin again. "We need order here," says the
"policeman". They offer him some money as a bribe.
Finally,
they let us through. Ladies with white lace aprons wait for us with trays full
of drinks. As a joke the groom receives a new broom as one of the gifts,
something that he might need later. As the groom and bride enter the house, a
towel is wrapped around both of them and they are led into the house. There’s
more singing, dancing, and drinking. We all go to the photographer before going
to the reception that is scheduled for later in the evening.
The reception takes place at a hotel nearby.
Waitresses and waiters are waiting with trays of drinks. The manager of the
hotel greets the newlyweds, and the maitredee hands the bride a bouquet of
flowers. After everyone settles down the MC invites the couple to the dance
floor for their first dance. Then the bridesmaid, best man and the parents of
the newlyweds join in. Soon we are all invited to dance. By now everybody is
hungry. It’s time for the feast. Different meal courses are served during the
night. The night passes fast between dancing, eating, drinking, and having fun.
If people are hungry, food is served again even in the early morning hours. The
festivities last all night into the morning when guests start to leave and the
party slows down.
The
guests go ahead to wait for the bride and groom at home. Coffee is waiting for
everyone. The bride and groom arrive. By now everyone is tired. Guests bid the
newlyweds good night, but trouble starts. As they enter the house they notice
that all door knobs leading to the hallway are tied with elastic, leading from
one door to the other. It looks like a spider web. The bride and groom have to
crawl underneath and cut through the web to release the door knobs and to get to
their bedroom. Once there, they lift the bed covers only to find more rice. The
new broom the groom was given previously comes in handy. Finally, the guests
leave the newlyweds alone, wishing them good night.
My son’s wedding in Croatia was a memorable one.
It’s something that I’ll remember for the rest of my life. It brought me closer
to my roots. No matter how long or how far I live, Croatia, and especially Pula,
will always remain in my heart.
November 18,1999
Source:
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https://www.mcaonline.ca/marija/wedding.htm (no longer
online)
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